Hi Readers,
Yesterday i wrote about “repentance” which was one of the topic which aspired me the most, Today i will be writing similar to repentance, but too has a great importance in life. It is “Forgiveness”, There are many explanation on forgiveness. but people always thinks that asking or seeking for forgiveness is a kind of apology, but forgiveness is not only to others but to yourself. Have you realized it yet?
People asked for forgiveness by apologizing when they done something wrong, or have hurt the other party. This is the most common methods to be forgive. However forgiveness can be used on oneself instead of only forgiving others. When you done something wrong, if you don’t forgive yourself, you should never ask for forgiveness, because you don’t understand your mistake at all.
There are inevitable mistake which are bound to happen sometimes and causes conflicts between each other, which is why people eventually seek forgiveness or hope that their forgiveness is being accepted. However people bare grudges and have thoughts of revenges or resentment because they are hurt, and eventually they do not want to accept any reasons or clarification as they think they are right. But they did not understand that the person who is seeking forgiveness is suffering.
The feeling of not accepting a person forgiveness is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn’t do to you) and expecting THEM to die.We should try to understand in another point of view and also turn anger into compassion instead of giving excusing, as we may excuse a person who is not to blame.
We forgive because a wrong was committed, forgiving and letting go can be very difficult challenges, but it’s even more stressful to hold on to grudges. Make forgiveness a gift you give yourself and not for you to do something for others.
“Forgiveness will not be possible until compassion is born in your heart.” Quoted by Thich Nhat Hanh
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Love, Shawn
I hope my friend would forgive me for doing silly things >_<
asking for forgiveness is not easy. you must lower down your pride just to say “im sorry”. .
He definitely will forgive you
I hope Leo forgives me for following his post with my post
thousand happiness = 1 mistake , asking for forgiveness will never return what happen
*sigh*
“Forgiveness will not be possible until compassion is born in your heart.”
perfect quote
I believe that u should be sincere if you’re saying sorry. Not just like this, “FINE!, sorry”
u know what I’m saying?
I hate people who doesn’t even admit their mistakes and doesnt say sorry.
^^
thanks
John: exactly, it’s hard to say sorry if you are really sincere because you got to lower your pride down.
hmm~ basically before one ask for forgiveness… there should be acceptance at first.. why ask forgiveness if you don’t mean it?.. when one accepts a certain mistake he/she made, then from there they can be easily forgiven. forgive and forget right
very applicable to me.. just reconciled with my friend yesterday.. it definitely takes time ^^
it’s hard to sleep when you know that you have done something wrong to someone. It is really hard to ask for sorry for forgiveness because you need to have the strength to face if the one you had done wrong will accept it or not. You’ll find peace of mind if it is accepted, yet troubled heart if not..
Haha! many people did silly mistake, however if one feels remorse, and apologize, your friend will definitely accept your sincere apology.
sometimes “im sorry” is not enough.. forgiveness is at act of changing one’s mistake.. word’s + action = forgiveness.. this is just my simple thoughts
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Wow! nice meaning, but i don’t really get “will never return what happen” If you mean by, asking forgiveness and hope the problem will never happen?
For sure, forgiveness can be given to those who really apologize from the deep heart.
But, its always hard to tell when someone is really sorry for their mistake, or just a habit that saying sorry for doing any mistake.
Thanks Gherick, hope you like it. Yup! your right, sincerity counts, not just “Fine!, Sorry” should put in more thoughts in saying sorry. Haha! yup i hate people who doesn’t admit if they make their mistake, they think they are always right.
It is easy to move on as long as you are forgiven….
Ghjan : Yup ghjan! thats exactly what my post meant! acceptance in your mistake before you go and ask for forgiveness!
Eunice: Wow! that’s really great! hope you and your friend will be still good friends
This is quite a general topic, so I’ve seen quotes of it in articles and stuff. Well i personally think that being forgiven is just an imagination, or what we say an expression to show that we are no longer blamed for something. I couldn’t agree more that it is very important though, it changes our thoughts about a mistake in various ways.
Asking for forgiveness is a simple thing to do, yet ppl tend to show their egoistic side. But I must admit that i’m also included in that. On the other hand, forgiving others depends on what level the mistake is and how much our heart can take it.
Some people forgive themselves for something they’ve done wrong only for self-comfort, yet they forget to ask for forgiveness. I mean no one is perfect right? I believe that as long as there is a particularly reasonable excuse/reason to what we have done wrong, there should always be forgiveness
Koala: Correct, the guilt in your will last, like torturing a person, however the one who is accepting the apology does not have a idea how pain it is to feel like this.
well you’ve got a point there shawn
but its best to believe that the person who made the mistake is really sincere. its what you call a peace of mind.. if you see some changes then 
it’ll be easier right?
Cae: Wow! you are so right! some people treat it as a habit to keep saying sorry but doesn’t really care if he is truly sorry for his/her mistake.
Elfie: Really great point there, yup a general topic but who really take into consideration of understanding this? So yes forgiven is a imagination, but is this imagination not real? as in it did happened and already happened, i personally feel that imagination is only the feeling part of forgiveness.
People forgive themselves for self-comfort, exactly true. They thinks by saying sorry or anything will solve the problem but however that is not the case.
Havent been on so yeah
anyways.
Forgiveness is just something that refers to a person who deserve to be “perished” of his or her wrong-doings
I mean if they are committed to do what’s right after finding out what is wrong then yeah forgive that particular person
But if that person does the same mistake.
Don’t bother since that person doesnt have that commitment
Neo: yup i agree with you.
Tahsinul: yup! agree with you, the commitment in changing after he finds out his wrong, if he does it again means he is not determined enough to change himself.
we always ask for forgiveness if we sin..but we are not that light when someone asks for our forgiveness.thats where humans are totally inferior
Forgive and forget and you’ll be happier
Correct, but forgiveness is not only for sin, for everything.
It’s Easy to Forgive, but Hard to Forget.
sometimes “im sorry” is not enough..
DEFINITELY RIHT.;C
neo phane is right,
u cant make it happen again samthing
i think this means that u cant turn back time..
it olredy happened.;c
it hits me too because recntly ive been arguing with a friend
and i dont think im wrong, maybe partly wrong
and now im feeling angry because it seems that he is more concern on what others thing than what i am feeling! urghhhhhhhh
but i think i should not care now,
it just hurts me.;c
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